“Disengage” is the word and the action that have opened a new way of responding to a neighbor who has been a source of hurt for several years. I had never thought of disengagement as an act of compassion for the “other”. By disengaging from this person, I can remove the opportunity for her to do harmful things that she might regret later and I can remove my temptations to think angry thoughts about her. A much more loving and effective way to end a relationship.
